If you are a parent of a child with ADHD, I know you can relate to what I am about to share! Have you ever called your child's name repeatedly only to be met with what seems like radio silence? You've gotten frustrated knowing good and well that your child heard you calling them. But did they really??
Or have you made comments like "You can't pay attention at school, but you don't have a problem paying attention to that game?" Well, let me talk to you about this intriguing world of inattention vs. hyperfocus in ADHD.
Inattention
We know that inattention is one of the categories found in individuals diagnosed with ADHD. You call your child, and it's like they're in another world. It's not defiance, rather inattention at play. Sometimes, ADHD minds are filled with so many stimuli that could appear as if the child (or adult) is zoning out. They really aren't ignoring you; their attention is just momentarily elsewhere.
Hyperfocus
On the flipside, individuals with ADHD experience hyperfocus. Yes, it is a real thing. Has your child ever been completely engrossed in an activity, or playing a video game? That's hyperfocus- the ability to laser-focus on a task. What's the problem, you ask? Getting their attention can be tricky when they are in a state of hyperfocus.
Practical Tips for Bridging the Gap
Recognize the cues- a child lost in thought may not register your calls immediately. It's not defiance!
Be gentle in your approach- When a child is deeply immersed in an activity, gently signal your presence to avoid startling them. (This is not the time to yell and scream your demands. They will likely look confused because they really didn't hear you the 10 times you said it previously)!
Incorporate unique sounds or cues when you need their attention. It helps reel their focus in.
Acknowledge and celebrate those moments of intense concentration. It's a testament to their ability to focus on tasks or activities that truly interest them.
Inattention and hyperfocus are two sides of the same ADHD coin! Individuals with ADHD navigate a wide spectrum of attention, with each area unveiling their unique strengths.
So, next time you feel the frustration rising, remember your child's perspective. Embrace the quirks and celebrate every win on this unique journey.
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